11. Time Waits For No Man

I am finding as time goes on, that my feelings are changing more often...the roller coaster is running away from me and the dips are getting deeper.

Each step along this journey is getting harder to deal with, sometimes I find myself very upbeat and looking forward with positivity. Other times everything looks bleak, my Jon is being taken from me and there is nothing I can do about it.

Anger is becoming more and more prominent  in my everyday life, though I do try hard to keep it under control. I'm angry that life goes on for others, planning what they are going to do next week, next year....and knowing we cannot. In a way it's jealousy, I too used to be like that....and now that has been taken away from us. No one knows how we feel day to day, except if you are going through or have been through something similar. Trying to keep the "happy face" charade up, gets harder, trying not to be a "bore" to people about what is happening to us. It's our life, such as it is, but it's a bloody hard life!!

Time waits for no man----a saying I have never paid much attention to in the past, but I do now. We are told to live each day as if it's our last, but that is easy to say and not easy to do.

Jon is still walking the dogs as much as he can, but I can see it's getting harder as time passes... it's heart breaking to see this strong, independent, stubborn, loving man losing ground as time goes on. The worst thing is, I can't do a dam thing about it!! THAT really makes me so angry!!!  

We are trying to make memories as we go along, but who are the "memories" for? Me! when I'm here alone without my Jon. I DO NOT want bloody memories, I want Jon!! 

I know it must seem to those that read this blog, that I am on a self pitying road right now, but I'm not, I'm sad, I'm angry and I have to allow those feelings to surface occasionally or I will explode.

I try not to let negative feelings overwhelm me too often, but I would be lying if I told you they never occur. Anyone facing life with cancer, from which ever side you view it, has these feelings. Most of the time you can bury them and ignore them, but now and then they have to be faced. 

My mind is starting to wander to the next scan, which will be in three or four weeks or so. The wondering will start again, has it worked this time? How well has it worked? What if it hasn't worked? What next? Is there a "what next"? 

Only time will tell, and-----Time waits for no man...........